We just started a Modern Family series at church.
I relate to many of the themes so far.
One that I don't understand much, is the Step/divorced/rivalry/confusion thing.
Yes, I am a step mom and and step grandma (banana)
My husband was divorced and had a son before me.
He was five years old when we stopped seeing him.
...way too much drama behind this one, but it was not our choice to be separated)
We saw the kid again, when he was 14.
Had some fun summers with him bonding with my girls in Alabama.
They are all pretty close now, as step kids go.
He has two children, boy and girl, whom I adore!!!
Head over heels in love with these grandbabies...
However because of some past and present issues,
Step son's mom is uncomfortable with me,
and her relationship with daughter in law
reminds me of my own monster in law experiences.
The problem arises, that the grandbabies are in a football game,
and a pagent the same weekend in October.
As it turns out, I cannot afford the weekend jaunt,
and plan on seeing them in January
when my oldest moves to Texas.
But the step son, before knowing this,
did not want me to come because it might make his mom uncomfortable.
Now, I would NEVER make anyone uncomfortable, say anything mean spirited,
or even make a funny face at someone, who I know is uncomfortable to begin with.
Any of you that know me, know this.
I am just praying that someday, I will be able to participate in plays,
sports games, graduations and weddings.....
especially if my and the hubby retire to Texas.
Until then, I will continue to send letters, gifts and love in the mail.
I will enjoy every moment I am with them.
I will encourage my daughter in law to mend/or at the least tolerate her mother in law.
And I will continue to pray for the ex that she feels loved and respected,
and never feels any threat from me, as she never has had reason to.
I am blessed with the love of the grandbabies no matter what or how often I do see them!
